We All Want to Be Loved

It's true. I see it every day. People want to be loved. They want someone to fill that space in their heart that is aching for acceptance and unconditional love. The kind of love that puts the other person's needs and wants above their own. The kind of perfect love that is portrayed in the movies especially chick-flicks. We want someone to fill that void in our lives and never let us down.

When you are blessed to find that special someone the Lord has created for you... you expect that person to meet all your needs. Lots of times without actually saying what we need. We expect them to be Prince Charming, perfect in every way. The problem is... there is no possible way that can happen. We are not perfect. The only one who can fill that void is the Lord. He alone can meet every need and every desire because He created us. Psalm 139:13 says "For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother's womb". He knows us inside and out. No person can ever meet our needs the way He can.

I love my husband but I am also learning that I can not expect him to meet the needs that my Heavenly Father wants to meet. I think I understood this a little better before I met Zach and didn't have him to depend on. During the time I was single, I only had the Lord to lean on. I have recently been reminded that I have to continue to lean on the Lord. He has given me my husband as a gift but not to take the place of my relationship with Him.

** Added Later...
I read this the other day and thought it was appropriate for this...

"I read my old premarriage poems, among the later ones included in this volume, with a bit of amusement. I wrote them so earnestly--meaning every word--and lived to find them really unfair. Pity the married couple who expect too much from one another. It is a foolish woman who expects her husband to be to her that which only Jesus Christ Himself can be: always ready to forgive, totally understanding, unendingly patient, invariably tender and loving, unfailing in every area, anticipating every need, and making more than adequate provision. Such expectations put a man under an impossible strain. The same goes for the man who expects too much from his wife."
- from Ruth Graham's book of poems called, "Never Let it End: Reflections of a Lifelong Love"